Thursday, August 19, 2010

The 30 simple things women really want

This is something I found on yahoo. Since we're always on the context of dreams Vs. Reality, I thought this should really figure here. I've edited it a bit, additions and deletions, but I'm sure every woman would know what is being talked about here, and guys, please take a hint !
It's kinda long, so if you're in a hurry, just read the parts in bold (those are what I personally want and appreciate most from the list , hehe)

  1. An automatic fat elimination process in the body. (I would weep with joy, if this one ever came around !!!)
  2. Husbands to be a little more appreciative of our cooking.
    Please grow up guys, not everyone can cook like your mom - she spent 40 years in the kitchen. Can't you give us some more time?
  3. A maid with a silencer attached.
    Available 24x7, this wonder maid should keep her mouth shut and work for nothing. "It is amazing how all the Ramu kaka s in movies are so obedient and pampering - too bad they don't exist in real life,".
  4. A man.
    It is not too difficult to get one - but if you want one with the following features, you may have to look for him on another galaxy. "He should love you like you are the last woman in the universe. He should multitask, be amazing in bed and know exactly what we want,They should be there only when we need them because they can't stop nagging at times.”
  5. Not to be asked 'Where's my wallet/ glasses/ car keys/ handkerchief?' every single morning by the other half.
    Can men ever learn to take care of their precious belongings (no puns intended)?
  6. Zero-calorie versions of hot chocolate fudge, chocolate truffle cake, and everything else in chocolate.
  7. Holidays that give us the chance to read just one book, without being interrupted with 'I am HUNGRY, Mom?' or 'I am BORED' every few minutes.
  8. A body of our choice.
    It could be Angelina Jolie's one month or J Lo's the next, depending on the kind of look we take a fancy to.
  9. A long, hot bath with a glass of wine and aromatic candles all around and a scenic view from the bathroom, with a nice book.
  10. A decent home-cooked dinner prepared by our better halves.
    Men should chip in and prepare a meal for us and clean up the kitchen for a change. Note: Maggi is excluded from the list.
  11. To be able to admire the dishy butts and the smooth skin of a younger man without feeling terrified when we realise we could be old enough to be his mother. Just appreciating a hot bod doesn't mean we are cougars.
  12. No backseat driving please. AND let a woman drive ! Sitting in a car, driven by a woman is NOT a sin.We love the idea of long drives but constant criticism of our driving skills really puts us off. "If men have a problem with our driving, why can't they get us a dishy chauffeur or a car that drives by itself,". Women can drive and that's the reason why the government decided to give them a driver's license.
  13. No backbiting, tutting or arched eyebrows from male colleagues when we have to dash off from work to pick up a sick child.
    It is a genuine problem; we would never go out shopping on the pretext of our child falling sick.
  14. One fruitful, decent conversation with our husbands at least once a day.Communication is the key to a successful relationship but competing with the latest man gadget - whether an iPhone or iPad really gets on one's nerves.
  15. To go out on the roads of Delhi and know we won't be stared at or eve-teased or mugged; to talk to the bankers without being asked 'Can we talk to your husband?'.
    It is a man's world, we agree, but people should consider the fact that we might, just might, bring in half the household income, if not more. We do wish at times that we are spoken eye to eye rather than eye to breast.
  16. Meaningful, loving sex, with a long, endless foreplay, preceded and followed by candlelight conversations, cuddles, chocolates and kisses.
    It sounds cliched but women love cliches and have all the right to get a little selfish in bed once in a while. PS: A quickie will do only if we have to get up earlier than usual.
  17. Endearing and well-thought out surprises.
    Women love surprises and it is high time men understood this. We don't want diamond rings. An empty laundry basket, a bottle of that Sauvignon Blanc, possession of the TV remote for a whole evening, and a day to be spent exactly as we wish - just once in a blue moon.
  18. A wardrobe that refreshes itself after every six months,"Who wants to wear something that is oh-so-last-season?". True. Everyone wants new clothes that can suit every occasion
  19. Good obedient children who are loving and appreciative. Children go to bed with a smile on their faces rather than crying at the injustice of their mothers?
  20. Bras that fit.
    We wonder why it is so difficult for us to get bras that are of the right size. Fancy, lacy, sexy bras that lift our cleavage and our moods would do wonders for sure. We hate it when someone points out bra straps peeping out of our sleeves.
  21. Unlimited free local and international calls and a cell phone that upgrades itself every six months.
    Women TALK
    and who wouldn't want to talk in style. But the exorbitant bills are a pain in the neck.
  22. A high paying, stress-free, enjoyable and a satisfying job that needs the least amount of work. (Sigh ...)
    "One can go off on vacations every two weeks,". "And of course, I should be the boss,"
  23. A bed meant for a princess/ queen and for a change readied by the man of the house. Huge fluffed-up pillows and a luxurious duvet that is changed regularly.
  24. Silver and bronze artifacts that never go dull... never a layer of dust anywhere, even after a dust storm. And white linen, upholstery and tapestry that never get dirty.
  25. A day at the spa, getting pampered without worrying about the fat bill we have to pay at the end of the day.
  26. Lifelong supply of matching footwear, bags and watches. (Which are also trendy and never quite same as an old one, or like some one else’s !!!)
  27. A Saturday night out dining with friends or at the movies rather than ending up watching television at home because the husband is busy at work. That would be the perfect way to end the week.
  28. Jam free/clutter-free roads where we can drive without hearing swear words being used freely. Or else, be prepared for us to retort in similar fashion.
  29. Pay our bills whenever we want to.We are law abiding women and we will give them their money when we have it,.
  30. A clean and organized home! Always.

A woman can always dream, can't she?

Wondering why the word "Simple" is there in the title ? ;)
Have a great day !
And by the way, if there is a woman in your life, pamper her a bit. It all boils down to just that :)

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Aren't we human beings?

This question was asked by someone to the HR of his organization, after a series of incidents.
I recently moved out of an organization, where, though I'm a fresher, I had an excellent designation, and a wide span of control. The trade off though was my personal life. Almost completely. I had to stay in a city in a state that was completely alien to me. Alone.
The pay was okay... I got weekends off... but the work was just too much you know?
Official work timings was only till 5.45pm, but we easily stayed till 7...8...
One of the top corporate guys once said to a gathering, "Why do you keep complaining that you have no time for personal life? For relationships? For making an impact...for making a connect, all you need is few moments. I see a friend of mine passing me in the airport, we cross each other almost after 6 years, I ask him something about the Man U- Chelsea match, he replies, we laugh, and we keep going on. In that instant, the reconnect was made. You don't need hours. Just vital connects. I don't know when I'll see my friend next, but we're still good friends!"

I get his point. When he said it, it sounded inspiring, and the request for more personal time seemed illogical. When he said it. But that's the thing with charismatic people right, they can get away with saying anything. People are convinced.

His answer was great, but it wasn't the answer to the question that was posed.
Personal life is not about making sure you're connected to your friends. It's about how well you are connected to yourself !!! When I leave office, I need sometime to unwind... Feel free. Be me.

I never could do that once in the 3 months I was employed.
By the time I got off, I went home and made a quick fast food dinner and crashed, or went out for dinner with friends from office where more office issues and gossip were discussed.
There was ALWAYS work to be done. Something or the other. That's fine... the TATs (Turn around time) was ridiculous, that's also fine, made us feel ambitious. But expecting everything to be done immediately...when menial paper work was given more importance than the strategic and actual work that had to be done was ... absurd! The same super boss who said everyone should be out of the building by 8.30 complained that we should've sat till 4 AM and finished what could've been done comfortably the next day. There was too much dissonance. Too much chaos.

The worst of it was, how wound up everyone was. At least at my Starting-of-career stage, and it looked like we had to stay that way for at least the next 7 years to get anywhere in that place.
When I was there, it felt like I was living in a different world. The problems were different, and too many, the emotions were too high strung.

I wondered if anyone even considered having a life there? Sure we went out during weekends, but everything felt so superficial. Barring a few people, (can be counted on the fingers of one hand) we're always guarded about what to say to whom. Who would use what information how. Who knew what already... politics took total control.

I have a loving family and loads of friends. But, you know, when you're in a high pressure environment, you're unable to connect, really connect with your friends out side because there's always the feeling that they just wouldn't get it. Which is true. It's different, and you don't feel understood. At least I didn't. From what I've heard from my friend's experiences there, I think I'm not alone. The number of relationship problems that came up were exponentially higher.

All this because people are always would up there. They were always worried about what to do next. Ticking off mental checklists. Smiling on the surface but far away at work, even when not so, most of the time. In my 3 months, I could never plan any personal travel that involved more than 2 hours of travel time, because we never knew what would come up when, and where we're expected to drop everything and run to. Oh, that was taken for granted. Monday we get news that we leaving to XXX place on Wednesday and will be there for a weeks time.
Didn't they care at all if the person had a life at all?
A family?
Kids at home waiting for that long promised trip coming Sunday.
A sister waiting for that movie, which they were supposed to go to ages ago, but just couldn't find the time to ...

Do we work for a living or live for working?
I'm pretty sure the top management feels the latter about the people in middle and lower management. Did they seriously think they owned the life of their employees, or did they take it for granted to such an extent that it didn't matter at all ?
The worst thing was how well they work the guilt factor into it all.
I had called a friend of mine out at 4 pm for ice cream. That friend was going to be working till at least 1 that night for various reasons. The guilt involved in coming out 1 hour was tremendous. I heard the words "my employee morals" at least twice. Doesn't this organization, which has trained it's employees to think so hard about their morals, which I truly appreciate, owe them the same level of respect for their own lives?
I'm asking.

Just like somebody was driven to ask;
Aren't we human beings?